Forgiveness

Bids

 * Questions
 * Can you think about an instance in which your partner tried to repair their relationship with you?
 * Did you recognize the attempt at a repair when it was happening?
 * Does a repair have to show up in a certain way for it to count?
 * If your partner is limited in their ability to make a bid for repair the way you need them to, could you accept their effort to make an attempt?
 * Did you really want them to repair the relationship or did you want them to experience the hurt you experienced?
 * When there is an attempt at a repair, did you allow that to be received? Or did it result in more hurt?  Did it activate the need for other repairs?
 * Do you know how to forgive or reconcile with someone?
 * What are your beliefs and thoughts around forgiveness in a relationship?
 * What words do you use for forgiveness?
 * How does it feel to say these words?
 * What is the cost for you if you choose not to receive the bid for a repair? What is the cost for your partner?

Interventions

 * Empty Chair
 * Information and worksheet - https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/forgiveness-therapy

Psychoeducation

 * Augsburger: Helping People Forgive - https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0664256864/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
 * Gottman: Seven Ways Forgiveness Can Transform Your Relationship - https://www.instagram.com/p/CCwk9Bgn1iB/
 * Smedes: Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve - https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/006128582X/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_image?ie=UTF8&psc=1
 * GoodTherapy - Forgiveness: What It Isn’t—and What It Can Be - https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/forgiveness-what-it-isnt-what-it-can-be-1206164